Wedding Speeches & Toasts

Wedding Speech Order & Who Says What

Usually there are 5 expected wedding speeches at a wedding those coming from, in order:

  • The Father of the Bride
  • The Father of the Groom
  • Maid of Honor
  • The Best Man Speech
  • Bride & Groom Speech

Wedding Speech Order

Bride’s Father…….

The father usually goes first in the traditional order of format; this position however, doesn’t have to necessarily be taken up by the father of the bride but can be done so by in his absence by other important people to the bride e.g. mother or a loved uncle.

The bride’s father should be called upon by the toastmaster (or best man) giving him the opportunity to:

  • Welcome his new ‘son in law’ to his family
  • Let everyone know how happy he is about the marriage
  • Give the couple his best wishes for a long and happy life together.

Bride & Groom……

The bridegroom replies on behalf of himself and his bride if she is not taking the floor at a later stage herself.

The groom now has the opportunity to:

  • Thank his parents and his wife’s parents for their love and support
  • Thank everyone for their good wishes and presents
  • Mention any person important who could not be at the wedding and thank those who have travelled to be there to help celebrate.
  • Thank the best man and the bridesmaids for doing a great job

Best Man……

It is the best man’s duty to respond to this toast on behalf of the bridesmaids and groomsmen if they haven’t already or aren’t taking the floor themselves. This is usually the most lighthearted speech of the day and the most anticipated. It is sometimes this confidence and humour that the best man is chosen for!

His turn taking the floor gives him the opportunity to:

  • Thank the groom for his toast to the groomsmen and bridesmaids
  • Read out any telegrams from those absent
  • Deliver anecdotes with a touch of humour about the grooms past…
  • Introduce the bride cutting the cake